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April 29, 2008


Oh dear. I don't like the sound of this. I hope he is alright. It must be terrible to feel so helpless when he has this kind of problem.


ai. hard.

Beth, you are so good about listening and asking what he actually wants and thinks. So often in the medical world the old are talked down to and treated like rather stupid children. All these episodes you describe so well remind me of being with both my parents when they were fading away (but not going quietly!) I too became furious at various nurses and carers who were around. I don't know if this is relevant to your FIL, but the various tranquilisers that were prescribed for both my parents were not at all helpful. My mother was having hallucinations and nightmares until I discovered that her carer had been giving her regular doses of Valium to keep her quiet. When I asked about it she said 'We always give it to them ("them"= the old). I was enraged, threw away the tablets and fired that carer. After this my mother's hallucinations stopped. But it sounds like the people where your FIL lives really care about him and look after him well and, hopefully, they don't administer tranquilisers willy nilly and by the bucket, as in some places.

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